New Years

Wednesday night, Melissa and I had our annual New Years Party. It was a really good time. There was plenty of folks, fun, and drama.

Melissa and I spent a lot of time getting the house ready for the party. The work spanned over a couple of weekends. We cleaned out our planters, cleaned out the rain gutters, hung lights, pressure cleaned, layed a lot of new mulch, hung drapes, painted, and did all of the typical short term fixes to make everything nice.

The day of the party, my long time friend / brother, Chris showed up quite early. He had told me he’d be there early. However, I’m known as an absent minded professor type for a reason, and I forgot he’d mentioned that to me.

So, Chris hung out while I mowed the yard. Then we went to Total Wine to pick up the keg, and he picked up a bunch of champagne. We also picked up rental chairs / tables from a place downtown.

I invited my neighbors. They’re all good to me, so it felt natural to have them over (plus, if folks were parking in their yard, the least I could do was offer them a beer).

It turns out that one of my neighbors isn’t doing so well. He’s a little older, so I never figured that he was sick. It turns out he has cancer, and doesn’t get out as often anymore. He showed up with his wife and daughter, and I’m really glad they came. They were a lot of fun to have around. They’re good folks, and I’m glad they’re my neighbors.

We had an unexpected guest arrive shortly into the night. Little Kaydon was dropped off on his layover back to his place. He’s a funny kid. I know it sounds cliche, but he is growing up really fast. He runs around now, and probably weighs as much as kids in grade school. He’s a verbal kid too, which means he definitely takes after his mom ;)

Alex and Mike (who recently proposed to Alex) came by early. They were staying the night in our honeymoon suite. They live in Boston (bastard Patriot fans), and were down for the holidays. I suspect the much warmer weather was a welcome change of pace for them.

There aren’t many folks from that area that I can say I like. Mike however, is a really good dude. I always catch myself, trying to speak to his level. So, I’m really glad he’ll be around for a while.

He says he want’s to go bass fishing sometime. Apparently, the fresh-water fishing in the greater Boston area isn’t that good. Well, I can think of a few more things around there that ain’t so hot either.

After that, Trinit, Taylor, Carly, April, Hal and Jason, showed up. That’s the group that Melissa and I get into trouble with. They’re all a hell of a lot of fun to hang out with. They all know quite well how to party. Aside from Chris, Mike and Alex, that group was the only other one to spend the night. I’m glad they did too, ’cause they were all hammered.

Mardi and Tony arrived shortly after, with Tony’s longtime friend Eric (a fellow software developer). Tony came in with a bottle of Glenmorangie, a premium whiskey he’d been raving about for months. I was on a Guinness kick all night, so I didn’t have any. However, he left me the bottle. So, whenever the sound of alcohol doesn’t turn my stomach anymore, I’m definitely gonna give it a shot.

Mickey and Megan (Melissa’s sister) came out next. Mickey recently had surgery, so he wasn’t up for drinking. He’s a good guy though, and can chill out regardless. Megan got a bit rowdy, which is uncharacteristic of her. So, it was awesome.

I owe Megan (and her Mom), a website as a Christmas gift. Megan’s a Full Sail graduate with a degree in Digital Media. She’s a graphics girl though (like her mom), so I think her website is gonna be pretty rad.

I’m pretty sure Bender came out after. Bender (the only NFi showup?), has been a great friend for a while now. His childhood beer funnel has been at my house since last year’s party. Surprisingly, I don’t think anyone used it this year.

Regardless, Bender put his two cents into beer pong, and proved once again why he’s an awesome friend to have.

Dan and Kristina came next. They too are also recently engaged. They’ve been together for years, and we were all wondering when the inevitable would finally happen. They too, are a lot of fun to hang out with, as many of the pictures show.

Kristina and Megan, turned out as Beer Pong champs for the night. I can’t explain how funny it is to see two pretty girls kicking everyone’s ass at what seems like a more manly sport.

Next up was the Hydra crew. Bobby and Halley (+ her buddy, whose name I don’t recall), Rob, Parker,Parler and Heather, and Shayne came out. Those guys have been amazing to me since I’ve started at Hydra, so I was really happy they came out. To be completely honest, much of the work I did to the house was an attempt to impress Bobby, my boss. He’s a super cool guy, but he’s also a perfectionist (really). He has a beautiful house, and I was hoping to compare.

I’m still a little bent that Zach didn’t show, but hey, whatever.

After that it’s a bit of a blur. I know I saw, Shandyn and Eric, Amanda and Bill, Dave and Sarah, John and a couple of friends of Dave (whose name also escapes me) were there. By the time those guys came out though, I was into double-digit territory on pints of Guinness. Hopefully I didn’t make too much of a fool of myself.

Oh wait… I did

So, Bill lost his wedding band in his backyard. He asked me if I had a flashlight, to help him find it. The first flashlight I could think of, was the weapon light mounted to my M-4. So, I grabbed the weapon, and used it as a flashlight in the backyard. It seemed like a completely plausible idea, to help out my friend. I did notice some hesitation on the part of folks in the area, which I wasn’t understanding of.

So, I fired the rifle.

5 shots rang out in rapid order (all aimed at the ground). Immediately Jason came over and told me (in a very calm manor), “Dude, it’s time to put the gun away”. Since I don’t live in the sticks anymore, I figured cops would be at the house shortly, so I agreed.

Melissa was not happy.

We got into a fight in our bathroom. She pushed me into the tub, and I grabbed her by the neck to get her to stop. We argued for a bit, and it was horrible. We were both drunk, and letting out the built up frustrations that a marriage can put on folks. By the end of the night, we were fine. It took some cooling off to get there though. :(

There were tons of good parts of the party too though. We all played a lot of beer pong, folks were dancing in the living room, and my infamous shoulder pads got around. A few people wound up naked, and a few more needed the toilet for reasons the toilet wasn’t designed for.

A number of people didn’t show up (all of Push, Zach, NFi ?), but I still had a great time. With a much smaller group than I had anticipated, we still killed the keg. I have almost no leftover alcohol (except that Glenmorangie ;) ).

So, to all of you that came out; Thank you. Everyone was great. Thank all of you for being so awesome.

More thanks go to Chris, who helped me clean up the next day, he even helped my find the rifle casings from my little, ‘incident’.

Social Media Is Social Waste

 

Give Me Your Friends

I was scrolling through Twitter & Google Reader today, and something occurred to me: There are way too many social networks ‘out there’. It’s funny too, ’cause all of them want you and all your friends. It’s an obvious pitch (what business doesn’t want as many consumers as possible). The thing that’s interesting though, is to what length many social networks will go to get your friends.

I forget who’s blog I was reading, but someone made a really good point about handing out passwords in a social network signup process. Join LinkedIn or Facebook, and you’ll be prompted with a message asking for your Gmail, Yahoo, MSN, etc.. email and password. The idea, is to get all of your existing friends immediately on this new social network. The point? That’s probably akin to handing out your social security number over the internet.

How preposterous is it to think it’s a good idea to hand out your email and password to a 3rd party? Your email, and it’s associated password are likely the most important passwords you have on the internet. So for someone to ask you to hand that out, is like a salesman asking for your house keys. Do you really trust someone you don’t know to be judicious with your most personal of internet information?

Add to that, Facebook Apps. A preface to all my friends, I like you, and I treasure your friendship. However, I never ever ever add Facebook Apps. Why? I don’t give out my personal info to 3rd party apps, just because my friend got roped into it. Just because all of your friends jump off the Brooklyn Bridge …

Facebook applications are a subset of social networks. Those applications, just like Bebo and Orkut, are looking for a larger and larger base of users, to justify some sort of buyout by a VC firm, or Ad revenue from someone else looking to tap into their publishing reach.

It may sound so obvious that it’s stupid. That’s fair, but really think about that the next time you want to send a ‘How Much Do You Think I’m worth’ invitation to me. The same way a stripper acts like she likes you, is the same way these apps pretend to provide something you might care about.

Remember, the underlying motivation is to reach as many people as possible. That’s very different than trying to help as many people as possible.

And that brings me to the point:

What are all these networks about? Really. After a while; I’ve connected with enough old friends, I’ve shared enough fun facts, and I’ve wasted enough of my life. What now? Where’s the value? If some network is going to ask for some of the most important information you have, then shouldn’t it be really worth it?

That’s the point. The way most social networks are written now, to reach the broadest base possible, there simply isn’t any real value provided. Granted, some folks will probably use them incessantly. For the rest of us, there’s a world out there waiting for us. 

So, the challenge:

To all you Social Network Entrepreneurs out there, how about a social network that actually provides something worthwhile? The next big thing is social networks isn’t just being in a network that has a refined set of the same features as everyone else. The next big thing must have more than that, like a social network that raises the average users credit score or something. 

I suppose it’ll happen about the same time we get WYTIWYG editing

;)

** UPDATE ** I’d be completely remiss if I didn’t thank Chris Scott, a local Orlando developer for showing me the following video. Dude, you are the man. Thanks again.

Thanks For Friends

Last weekend, Derek and I were working on finishing a product for alpha release.

We were at our deadline, so we had to work as long as it took to get the product out.

That meant we weren’t able to watch UCF’s first game against NC State.

We were quite dismayed at the prospect of missing out on our Alma Mater’s season opener.

Enter an unnammed friend of ours, who streamed the event from his TV so we could check it out ourselves, as we worked. I’d like to publicly thank him, but I’m not sure if I should. Anyways, thanks anonymous friend!

It’s good to be home

So, I’m sitting at home on a Sunday night, and I’m not loathing the drive to work tomorrow. It’s been a while since I could say that. I guess it’s obvious. Tomorrow my drive might max out at 30 minues, versus the 2 and a half hour drive I’ve done every Monday for the last 16 months.

That frees Melissa and I up for a bunch of things. We hung out with some friends today. They’re all really fun people, and I’m glad we got to do everything we did today. They all were smashed, and being the only sober person around, I constantly wondered when we were going to be kicked out of everywhere we went.

Also, we got to hang out with my old roomate and friend Joe. Joe is in the Marine Corps these days, so we don’t get to see too much of him. He has a new lady friend, and she turned out to be a lot of fun to be around as well. The’ve been dating for over a year now.

Joe got me to break my “No Alcohol” stand last night. We had a bit, not too much. But I couldn’t resist the opportunity to have car bombs with my buddy. I miss him. He might wind up in Iraq. Even though I think he’ll be fine, you never know. So I didn’t waste the opportunity to have a good time.